Have you dated someone for months or even years, but you feel that you are not with someone that you really want to be with? If you find that you are unhappy in your relationship, letting go is what you need to do.
Do you think it would be hard to let this person go and get over someone that you were with for a long time? If you do, know that you are not alone.
Instead of feeling bad for yourself, figure out the positives that came out of your experiences and allow yourself a chance to move forward.
Here are some ways you can move forward:
Cut Contact
Get rid of the persons phone number and unfollow him on all of his social media. You need to get rid of pictures and other memories that bring up feelings about him. Getting rid of these things can help you not to be weak and fall back into the relationship.
Make sure that you delete him from your life.
New Places
If you have mutual friends with your past relationship, chances are that you will see them when you go out. If you want to cut ties with them, you have to find new places to hang out.
This doesn’t mean that you cannot visit your favorite places, but you need to avoid the places that he spends with his friends the most, at least for a while.
Hobby
Find a hobby that makes you happy. Do you like to bowl or do yoga? Find a place that you can do this so that you can take your mind off of your relationship.
Now is the best time to find a new hobby and think of things that you like to do.
Be Patient
Getting over someone does not happen overnight, especially if you loved them or really cared about them. This can make you feel sad and make you feel lonely.
You have to learn to love yourself and be patient with yourself. You will feel bad for a while but forgive yourself for these feelings and make a goal to be better.
Focus on You
Take time to look at yourself and what you want in life. What goals and directions do you want to take? Find out if you are happy with your life and reflect on your career, family, and friends.
If you want to change things, do it. You can be selfish and think about yourself for a while. Go for a new job, take a trip, focus on what will make your life better.
Find Support
Talk to your family or your friends about what you are feeling. Do not feel guilty about being sad or feeling lonely. Call someone and talk to them and tell them what you are thinking.
Meet up with old friends and allow your mom or sister to pamper you. Be honest with them about your feelings so that they can give you advice and comfort you.
Not the One
Remember that this relationship didn’t work for a reason. Know that he is not the one for you. There are billions of people in the world and you have to keep looking to find the perfect person.
Dating Again
Allow yourself to date again. Find someone to take you out that makes you happy. This can help you to stop focusing on your past relationship.
Never make the same mistakes twice and make sure that you are not dating someone that is just like your ex. Let your friends set you up or go places where you can meet new people to date.
It is okay for you to move on. This is part of life and you can find your happiness again.
