We are people that want to love others. Maybe we choose to love people because we find them in our social life or because they are family members.
The choice that we make about love is not as free as we think it is. Most people have things that hold them back from loving others properly. We might become attracted to someone or we might find that we fall for certain kinds of people.
We love people that we have started loving as children. We look for people in our lives that make us feel how we felt when we were small and when we knew what love was. We want someone to be simple and kind and loving. We look for people that can love us and can get rid of the pain of love.
We want to feel good enough and we want to be loved in a fragile way. We don’t want to have love that is depressing or hard.
The idea of how we look at love as adults helps us to understand who we will get close to. We see things differently and we think different things are important. We look at how we see each other from different perspectives, and we want love to not have to be so complex. We want to have love that is real.
It is easy to tell people to leave someone and to find other love, but this can be hard. We cannot redirect someone that is attracted to someone else. These kinds of changes happen when we are attracted to someone and when we feel that they are magical in our lives.
Instead of trying to change who we are attracted to, we just adjust how we respond to them and their character, even when they are difficult.
The problem that we have happens because we continue to love people that are childish and that are not always good at what they do. We find people that raise their voice, and we love them. We find angry people and we love them.
We become timid in our relationships, but we are drawn to people that often make us feel vulnerable and hurt. We find people that make us feel weak and then we become frustrated by who we accept in our lives. We feel that we are often undeserving of real love.
We have a hard time changing who we are attracted to and we learn to be desired by people that we like. Even when we become adults, we want to find ways to fit people into our lives that we like.
We ant to be with someone that makes us feel desired and not someone that is defensive and someone that we have to deal with or challenge to love us. We have to learn to grow up and see things differently and behave differently.
When we do this, we are able to find love and to be happy in our decisions.
